Please read Part 1, Part 2, Part 3, Part 4, Part 5 and Part 7 for context. Thank you.
The good news is that I no longer need or have to be held hostage by the bully. I no longer need to believe that I deserve to be bullied. I no longer need to internalize the lie that I am not enough and that I do not do enough. I no longer need to live in denial or defend other people’s denial. I no longer need or have to discard parts of myself. I no longer need to stoop to the vicarious demands of other peoples expectations. I no longer need to carry other people’s shame or sadness. I no longer need to be bullied by a fear of abandonment.
I no longer need to sit and be minimized, marginalized or discounted by the bully.
By accepting that I am a work in progress — not a work in perfection — I have changed the way that I look at my process. Consequently, I have had a change of perspective. I now look at myself and my experience in a different way. I now realize that I no longer have to answer, defend, justify or explain myself to the bully. I now realize that I no longer have to be accountable to the bully. With my change of perspective — I now realize that my circumstances and experiences are meant to build me up, not to be used to devalue and shame me.
I now realize — as Eleanor Roosevelt poignantly stated — that no one can make me feel inferior with out my consent.
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Eleanor Roosevelt
Please read the conclusion in Part 7. Thank you.
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