Overcoming a Fear of Failure and Making Changes Part 1

Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live my friend. You are always welcome around my table. In one of my recent articles I shared with you that I felt as though I had come up against a wall. In another recent article I shared with you an article that I wrote approximately 5 1/2 years ago Living my Destiny through Walls. In that article, I shared with you what I learned – through my experience – when coming up against these proverbial walls. For the past several days I have been writing in a journal about my experience with my recent wall.

During the course of the past several days, I spent time meditating, praying, writing in a journal and examining what I was experiencing due to my current wall. In the process of meditating, praying, writing in a journal and examining my current wall, several realities came to light. Let me share some of those awareness’ with you. If nothing changes, it will remain the same and if I keep doing what I have always done while expecting to get different results I am practicing what I have heard is a form of insanity. My awareness gave way to acceptance.

My acceptance helped me to realize that I needed to take action. My acceptance helped me to realize that if I want to get different results in my life, I need to make changes. My acceptance helped me to realize that I may only need to make minor changes, for my life and experience to take on new meaning.

For many years of my life I felt driven to be perfect to avoid feeling shame at a core level — because I did not just feel like I made mistakes, but I felt as though I was a mistake. My drive to be perfect was motivated by my fear of failure, my fear of abandonment and fear of self-annihilation. In my fear of experiencing shame, my fear of failure, my fear of being abandoned — emotionally, spiritually and physically – and my fear of self annihilation – that my life did not matter — I lived my life from an all or none and black and white rigid perspective.  

In my rigid perspective, I continually sought and strove to overcompensate for my insecurities and my fear of self-annihilation — at the core of my being — because of the reprisal for making mistakes. In my overcompensation, I lived my life in a state of hyper vigilance in an unsuccessful attempt ward off my fear of failure, my fear of abandonment and my fear of self annihilation at the core of my being.

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