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Stewing, Stuck and Frustrated — What to Do?

Posted by Second Chance to Live on June 10, 2013

Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live my friend. Thank you for making the decision to stop by to visit with me. Life is filled with things that I do not like and would like to be different. Life, I have also found is filled with things that I am powerless over and can not change. Although I would like to change these things, I realize that attempting to do so only keeps me frustrated, stewing and stuck.

“If you do not like some thing, change it. If you can not change it, change the way you think about it.” Mary Engelbreit

In my attempts to change the people and situations in my life — that I do not like — I have spent a lot of time arguing with myself, ruminating about how to manipulate the situation to bring about different outcomes and obsessing about why I can not change what I do not like. In my struggle, I have found myself to be like a dog with a bone, that does not want to let go of the bone – not realizing that I had and could make other choices. 

“Take advantage of the ambiguity in the world. Look for some thing and think what else it might be.” Roger Von Dech

In the early morning hours, I found myself fighting with myself, not being able to let go of several bones. In my struggle, I found myself praying and meditating. As I prayed and meditated, I realized that I had more power than I realized. Instead of continuing to feel frustrated, stewing and stuck, I began to see each bone in a new light. As I prayed and meditated, I began to see the benefit or silver lining that each bone contained.

“Too many people miss the silver lining because they are expecting gold.” Maurice Setter

In the process of examining each bone, I found a new freedom. In the process of examining each bone, I found the ability to let go. In the process of letting go, I found myself being empowered by what I discovered. By examining what I discovered, I was encouraged by the realization that I could make different choices. By examining the different choices I could make, I realized that I no longer needed to stew, be frustrated or stuck.

When I let go of bones and my all or none, black and white thinking, I am able to see silver linings.    

In your life you may also be fixated on specific outcomes. You may also have a hard time letting go of bones. You may also be stuck in an all or none, black and white way of thinking. May I make a suggestion. Take some time to pray and meditate. By doing so, you may begin to see that you can make different choices. By making different choices, you may be able to stop stewing, being frustrated and feeling stuck.

By praying and meditating, you may begin to see the benefit (s) or silver lining (s) with in each of your bones.

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