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Traumatic Brain Injury and Feeling Important Part 1

Posted by Second Chance to Live on June 6, 2011

Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live my friend. I hope you are doing well today. In life, and because of the way in which – at times — I “frame” or interpret what occurs in my life, I can be deluded from certain realities. The delusion can come because I feel less than or because I find myself comparing myself to / with other people. In response, I can find myself either becoming depressed or striving all the more in an attempt to prove my importance.

In my experience, I found that neither my depression, nor my ardent striving — to do enough to be enough — empowered my ability to feel important.  Depression stymied my ability to see solutions and my striving (s) only proved to keep me busy. In my experience, I found that my depression and attempts to overcompensate only served to re-enforce my prevailing sense of inadequacy.

My experience, led me to a point in time when I began to grieve my perceived conundrum. As I moved through the process of grieving my perceived conundrum – that I was not enough and that I needed to compare myself with other people – I began to have spiritual awakenings. My spiritual awakenings helped me to realize that I did not have to overcompensate to be more than to feel important. I discovered that I could let go of what I thought would make me feel important.

Through my grieving process, I discovered that I could rest in my labor, while giving of myself in ways that work for me. I discovered that I no longer needed to invest myself in specific outcomes to feel important. I discovered that one person sows and another person waters, but neither activity makes one person more important than other person. Each activity and individual is of equal importance.

Please read Part 2 of this article by clicking here.

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