Hello and welcome back to Second Chance to Live my friend. I am happy to see that you decided to stop by to visit with me. Thank you. As an individual living with a brain injury, I struggle with three issues in life: three issues as they relate to my living with a brain injury and an invisible disability. During the past week, each of these issues were triggered by three separate individuals.
One of these issues leave me feeling frustrated, inadequate and unlovable. A combination of the three issues left me feeling disorientated and depressed.
The combination of the three issues / messages led me to begin doubting, questioning and challenging who I am at the core of my being. You see, I found myself listening to and being challenged by individuals who — by what they said — shamed me for not doing enough or being enough. I am not sure why they said what they did to me, however what they said to me triggered an internal struggle.
These 3 issues encapsulate what I struggle with in my life from time to time.
The first comment stated that I should be working to stimulate the economy instead of “claiming that you are disabled because of a brain injury”. The second comment stated that “there are people far more severely disabled than you, who are doing more with their lives than you are”. The third comment stated that “you have nothing to offer today’s woman to want to be in a relationship with you.”
By examining each comment and the message inherent with in the comment, I realize that each comment and message is based in denial and ignorance.
Nevertheless, if I buy into these messages — for very long — I will not be any good to myself, much less to anyone else.The reality is that I do not relish living below the poverty line, that I am impacting lives in a positive manner through Second Chance to Live and that a loving God has the right woman for me, given my situation, my economic status and my brain injury foibles.
Bottom line is that I powerless over what other people chose to think about my reality. Bottom line is that I am not powerless over my ability to do the work — to learn to accept my reality and then to learn to thrive with in my reality.
Word of Appreciation
I want to thank each of you who have sent a comment to let me know how Second Chance to Live is impacting your quality of life. Your comments and thoughts are a tremendous blessing to me. Thank you also for your friendship and your prayers. Your encouragement reminds me that I am not alone — whenever I am confronted with these 3 issues and your prayers help to carry me when I struggle.
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